Geekdom and Writing Between the Lines

I would like to preface this blog with this statement. I am 44 going on 45 and I am a hopeless, proud, unapologetic geek.

Don’t roll your eyes. When I’m 55, I’ll say the exact same thing.

I own a PS4 and an Xbox One along with a 55 inch HDTV and surround sound system to give it some punch so that I can further immerse myself.

I love games with fairies, dragons, mages and women with swords. This includes the Dragon Age Series, The Witcher 3, and shit like it.

There are also times where I’d rather things be mindless, and I just wanna shoot some NPC (non playable character) in the head for getting in my way, thus, keeping me from blowing the enemy to kingdom come through the guise of Call of Duty or Far Cry games.

Whoa, before you say anything, no, I am not some lonely soul living with my mother in a little room in the back. I grew out of that phase by the time I was in my early twenties thank you. I’d rather not give you the exact age, even if you ask. Anyhow, I digress, I am a married woman with children (a pug and a cat).

Shhhh! I try to play when she’s sleeping which can be up to Noon on some days. Yay! God, please don’t tell her I said that. She can be scary. There’s this vein that throbs on her forehead. I’m already not allowed to hang my posters. I have some really cool Justice League ones…

Uh, don’t tell her I said that either.

You as readers of my work should also know that I’m not a one trick pony…geek. I do TV and movies too. I reserve my butch squee for the superhero shows such as: The Flash, Legends of Tomorrow, Agents of Shield, and when they get it right, Supergirl. This extends to all things Marvel and some DC. Wonder Woman anybody? Cuz the rest of those movies stunk up the joint.

I screamed at my TV during GOT at the Red Wedding and cheered at the Purple one. I was a Warehouse 13 and Lost Girl fan.  I am currently addicted to Wynonna Earp, KillJoys, etc, and I am thinking about extending my Universe to include Dark Matter and a few more.

Thank God for DVR.

Damn it. I even do the gimmick T-shirts. No, I am not a man child. I am not a man!

I channeled all this and more to create the character of Haley Jordan in my latest book, Between the Lines. She is introduced in the book with a bang and a whimper via her discovery of the ending of Mass Effect 3.

Cries.

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Sorry, I needed a minute.

In fact, her last name is the name of my FemShep I used to play the Mass Effect Trilogy. Puffs out chest. Jordan Shephard was renegade all the way baby. Total badass. The badassiest. Haley is passionate, laid back, values friendship, loyalty and she’s sensitive as well as in touch with her feelings. She holds nothing back.

Perfect. Amirite?

Frowns.

Amirite?

Okay, there you are.

Well, she’s only perfect on the surface. My girl has a self righteous hero complex that gets her in trouble. I mean, no one can save everyone especially from themselves. She learns some huge lessons by the end of the book. All the while, wearing her gimmick T-shirts, playing her Xbox and so on.

I truly enjoyed her journey, and I am grateful that I got to meet her, in a sense. I picture her standing right next to Kelli McCabe. Kelli’s scowling and swatting at her as Haley elbows her and laughs.

It does my heart good.

Now, I’m on to new characters. I can’t wait to see where they stand.

Pearly, purple, blue furry fucks and GCLS

Hello again. It’s me, KD.

Given my most recent blog, I think all of you understand that I am passionate about letting writers write what the hell they want to write. I also think it is a fact that Andi Marquette is my partner in fucking crime.

Yet again, we were having a discussion about swearing in lesfic and GCLS came up. There is panel on profanity. It is entitled, Profanity, Vulgarities and Obscenities, Oh My!

Initially, this was the description of the panel.

A discussion of the growing and often unnecessary use of profanity in lesbian fiction. Do readers deserve a more intelligent vocabulary? How can non-objectionable words and phrases work to an author’s advantage? How much is too much? Is the shock value muted when swearing is over used? When is a carefully placed obscenity absolutely necessary?

I’ll give you a second to read and digest.

Okay, at first it reads as if the panel is condemning swearing in lesfic and really denigrating those who use it. This interpretation led to a post of Facebook via Andi Marquette’s FB page as well as on The Lesbian Talk Show Chatgroup. Feel free to browse and add your own commentary.

Anyway, some people did get pissy because of the response to the post and that’s fine. Shit happens. Then, a lot of writers in lesfic joined in to lend their voices and it was GLORIOUS!

The description of the panel has been changed to reflect its real intent which is to debate about the use of profanity in lesfic regarding those for and against, including a discussion about the possible need of warnings on books for potentially triggering content, excessive language, explicit sex, etc. The entire discussion brought up some very interesting points.

There was one that stood out to me the most.

In the LGBTQ community we have spent a lifetime being censored, downtrodden, ridiculed and degraded. We have been told that we shouldn’t love the people we love. We’ve been told we couldn’t fuck the people we wanted to fuck. We’ve been told we couldn’t adopt children. We’ve been told we shouldn’t engage in public displays of affection. We’ve been told we’re promiscuous. We’ve been told that lesfic was just porn.

You get my drift.

We’ve been told to do and not do a lot of fucking things.

Haven’t we been policed enough?

Here is the problem. As a part of the queer community why would you try to censor or police others of the same community? Better yet, why would women want to censor other women?

I’m not making any of this up. As I stipulated in my last blog, the reviews I’ve gotten on the Cops and Docs series contain complaints and questions about the language. I got a lot of… this would have been a great book if Kelli didn’t curse so much.

I don’t understand how this book is a best seller with all the cursing.

This would have been a good book if the author had used more refined language.

This was a good book and I can tell you’re black because you used so many curse words.

Yeah, somebody actually said that.

She really, really did.

For me, it all goes back to one thing, socialization. As women, it has been hammered in our heads for fucking centuries that we are supposed to act a certain way and speak a certain way. Unfortunately, some women actually believe it. Now, there is nothing wrong with any of that. Let everybody be I say, but when you try to push that belief off on others and tell them they are less than because of it.

No ma’am. That’s too far.

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There is no fucking spoon!

And lesbians doing it to other lesbians? It’s tantamount to shooting yourself in the foot, especially in this political climate. When it comes down to it, we are stronger as a community when we’re not ripping into each other. Let’s be empowered by the freedoms we do have while we have them. Every single one, even the small things.

What I’m saying may seem inconsequential or trite to some.

Yet, it all boils down to this: sanitized lesbian romance and lesbian fiction is okay.

Guess what? So is everything else.